Recently, it has felt like my entire world has been crashing down around me.
I’ve been trying to find a job that would be easy enough for me to manage (with my bipolar disorder and severe anxiety), but I haven’t found one. I was taken to the hospital about a week ago and they (almost) sent me to the psych floor, but they let me go home with strict rules I am still following today. My sister was supposed to have a mass removed from her throat on Friday; she went to the hospital, they poked her several times trying to find a vein and they finally got an IV in her radial artery which caused a lot of nerve pain, and then they cancelled her surgery last minute for a silly reason. And now, I am struggling with a possible case of Bell’s Palsy for the second time in my life.
It’s safe to say, lately I have felt pretty hopeless. I have felt like a piece of paper being torn into shreds.
But, I am starting to come out of my “funk”, finally.
Here are a few things that I’ve done that has helped me become a more positive person. I hope you can learn something new, something that will bring you out of your sadness or anger or disappointment or whatever it is that you’re feeling.
ONE: ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL.
Every time it storms, it stops storming. Every time the sun goes down, it comes back up. Every time you get hurt, you heal. If you’re happy right now, that’s great! Enjoy your joy. On the other hand, if you’re angry or depressed or anxious, remember that everything in life is temporary. Don’t avoid your emotions; embrace them. They won’t last forever.
TWO: PUSH YOURSELF TO TAKE ANOTHER STEP.
This is the most important thing, for me. As someone who has suffered through being suicidal, and as someone who deals with anxiety and depression every day, I have learned that doing something new and brave helps me feel strong.
For example, I am overweight (and I am working to change that, but that isn’t my point right now) and I wore a two-piece swimsuit in front of my aunt and uncle and cousins today for the first time. That was me being strong and brave and proud. That was a huge step for me.
I’m looking into gym memberships and I’m hoping to start one up in a few weeks. I’ve never worked out in front of strangers.
I set goals, and I work to meet those goals. Personally, if I have nothing to look forward to, I focus on only the negativity in my life.
THREE: CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS.
I’m still working on this one myself.
I think more negative thoughts than positive ones, every day of my life, but I know that if I change those negative thoughts into thoughts of happiness and love and light, I will be a much more joyful person.
Instead of thinking, “I’m so fat and ugly – that’s why I’m single. That’s why I can’t find a partner”, every time I look in the mirror, I should think, “I’m beautiful and kind and loving and I deserve to be happy. God will send me someone when the time is right.”
If I tell myself that I’m “fat and gross and unlovable” every day, my mind is forced to believe that it’s the truth. The same is factual for positive thoughts. And I’m learning to accept the fact that the positive should always overpower the negative.
FOUR: LOOK FOR SOMETHING SMALL TO APPRECIATE.
If you don’t have a great job, or you don’t have a body like the girl on the cover of your favorite magazine, or you’re single; you can still find something to appreciate every day. And you should.
A silly example; I appreciate the fact that I am getting a new tattoo in a few months. I appreciate the fact that it’s going to be a memorial tattoo for my four beautiful grandparents. I appreciate the fact that I have a house, and food in the pantry, and clothes on my back, and comfortable shoes on my feet.
Find at least one thing to smile about in every day.
I have found happiness, and then lost it, and then found it, and then lost it, time and time again. And every time I find it; it’s more incredible than the last time.
What makes you feel good during life’s difficult moments? Leave a comment below and share your tips and tricks! I’d be glad to learn something new.